Are Unrealistic Standards Holding You Back From Love?
As long-time executive matchmakers of an elite dating agency in Southern California, we are no strangers to the familiar phrase “I’m just real picky and not willing to settle!” Our executive matchmakers work with professional, successful singles and are focused on VIP dating for professionals.
For most people who married, had a family and ended up divorced, life is far more complicated than in their carefree single days of yesteryear. For starters, juggling work, family and a personal life can feel like a three-ring circus act. Finding the time to date–let alone develop a relationship–can prove challenging and downright impossible for some.
Because getting out there again requires conscious effort, not to mention good chunks of time and energy, many men and women throw in the towel on ever meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right. They let themselves off the hook by saying “I’m really picky and would rather be alone than settle for less.”
In reality, they are merely setting unreasonable standards for a mate.
Take Denise for example. She is a successful realtor who was married twice in her 20’s and 30’s and has been single for 20 years since. She puts in 80-hour weeks, works weekends and has her own business and properties to keep afloat. Her biggest problem is not meeting men but meeting ones she is physically attracted to and not “too old.” Yet she is 54, and the beau she just broke up with is at least 7 years her junior, tall, nice-looking, but…flat broke! Because all Denise cared about were the more shallow qualities of an individual, she lost track of the realistic qualities that make a relationship work – not good looks, but personality, drive, and the ability to keep up with both her and his lifestyle!
Next time you hear someone say those familiar words about not wanting to settle, feel free to give them good advice and a friendly reminder that love is about more than the perfect image. Give them a clue on how to recognize who and what a compatible partner for them looks and feels like.
Want us to do the job for you? Joining with an elite executive matchmaker can rid the frustration of dating. Savvy single people are smart to seek help from professional matchmakers who can help them navigate the treacherous waters of singledom to meet the one who keeps evading them because they are venturing out without a map.