Free Advice Column 
Authors Sherri Murphy & Keri Roberts

" Matters Of The Heart" is a popular dating advice column, published in a South Bay publication for over nine years. The weekly column has questions from single readers, addressing dating dilemmas and relationship questions. Sherri Murphy, founder of Elite Connections. and Keri Roberts, an twenty-year veteran of the matchmaking business, offer a decade of experience in the area of helping single men and women find life partners. Sherri and Keri each met her husband though personal matchmaking services and have dedicated themselves to helping others do the same.



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DATING SUCKS!

Dear Sherri and Keri,
I don't have a problem meeting women over 40, but I find it very disappointing. Either they have serious hang-ups or are very set in their ways. I'm not into independent women who won't change a work appointment or dinner with their girlfriends for me. I want to get married and have a family but only with the right person. I'm not getting any younger but admit to preferring younger women. What do I do?
Keith, 44, Manhattan Beach

Dear Keith,
Realistically, you shouldn't have a problem dating woman 30-38, but probably the best age range for you is 35-38. Women in their mid to late 30's are generally more mature (than women in their 20's). They are more likely to be looking for a mate to marry and have children with as opposed to "the pot of gold". We find that men who believe all woman of a certain age act a certain way are usually the ones causing the women to behave that way. Regardless of age, give each woman a fair chance before passing judgment.

I WANT TO DATE MY DOCTOR!

Dear Sherri and Keri,
I have a huge crush on my doctor and I’ve been making up reasons to see him. We have exchanged glances in his office many times. The other day I saw him in a restaurant so I went over and flirted for a few minutes. I know he’s single and I’m sure I’ve given him the hint… so where do I go from here? I was thinking of dropping off a note with my number, stating that I'd like to go out sometime. What do you think?
Tamara, 42, Business Owner, LA

Dear Tamara,
Well you really have nothing to lose, except a good doctor. So mail him a note (marked personal on the envelope) with a very short note like you’ve discussed. He’ll either respond or not. We think it’s best to let the man make the first move, but he might be worried about making a move on a patient.

DO THEY EVER GET MARRIED?

Dear Sherri and Keri,
I’ve been dating a lot and there are so many great men out there. But are they all committed bachelors and never going to get married?
Sharon, 38, Hermosa Beach

Dear Sharon,
They all get married when they find the “one”. Even Warren Betty.